“I’m not going to stay motivated because motivation’s crap. Motivation comes and goes. When you’re driven, whatever’s in front of you will get destroyed.” – David Goggins
The number one question I get asked over social media and in person is, “how do you stay motivated?” The answer is: I don’t, I stay disciplined. I stay driven. Some mornings I’ll wake up and the last thing I want to do is go to the gym. When the weekend rolls around and everyone is going out and chllin’, I instead, find time to train.
Here are 5 ways to stay disciplined:
1) Let your goals drive you, not motivate you.
Motivation comes and goes. Here is the difference between drive and motivation:
Having drive is doing something even though you don’t feel like doing it anymore.
Being motivated is doing something because you feel like doing it.
2) Do not give yourself a choice.
Don’t wake up in the morning and ask yourself “Should I go to the gym?”
Wake up, and go. Don’t think about it, do it. It’s that simple. Tell yourself “I am going to the gym today. Period.”
3) Remember when you’re not working hard, somebody else is, and if that somebody else is, go hang out with them.
When I train, I tell myself, “Nobody is working harder than me.” I use the hashtag #trainharderthanme, because I can, I’ve earned that right. I would love to see somebody training harder than me. If you’re training harder than me, I would love to train with you, because you’ll be the way that I get better. “Find the most talented person in the room, and stand next to them. Hang out with them, help them.” – Harold Ramis
This applies to everything. As you might know from all my blog posts, I am learning to write. I don’t sit down and write magnificent pieces out of nowhere, in fact, I don’t feel like I am on this level at all. I am an amateur; I have no idea what I am doing. In no way have I earned the right to say, “I am a great writer.” At times, I feel overwhelmed and think “damn, so many great writers are already out there, how could I possibly compare?” Then I remember how I first started out in the fitness world, a complete amateur. What did I do to get better? I read everything I could about training. I followed people who inspired me and mimicked their habits. I trained with people who trained harder than me, who knew more than me, who were better than me. Now, I am no longer an amateur and people look up to me for health and fitness inspiration.
Right now, even when I don’t want to write or read, I tell myself, “somebody is working harder than me, working on their blog, educating themselves, and they’re one step ahead of me.” You best believe that puts me in discipline mode like the flick of a switch.
4) Find what drives you.
Success is the best revenge. I don’t care how stupid the reason is, if it drives you, go with it. Ya’ll want the truth? My path to being in incredibly good shape, starting my Instagram, blog, website and following my traveling dreams didn’t take off until after my break up. I wanted to show that guy what he lost. I worked my ass off every day and haven’t stopped since. At first, that heartbreak was my drive, but having discovered myself along the way, that no longer drives me. In fact, I don’t care to show him anything anymore.
My drive comes from my want of how I long to live my life. Without that heartbreak though, who knows if I would have found myself in that prompt manner. Can you imagine if I didn’t turn that pain into a positive action?
Who cares what gets you going! If it gets you going, roll with it. Tell people. Don’t tell people. Post your progress on social media, or don’t. Whatever drives you, do it, and whatever helps you keep going, flaunt that shit.
5) Be in love.
Not with a person, but in love with what you are doing. Love what you do. I promise you, more will come from being in love with your drive than you could have ever imagined. If you love to do burpees (me), it will be much easier to stay disciplined. I love going to the gym and challenging myself, “How many burpees can I do today?” I also love the results it gives my body. Knowing that if I do 100 burpees today, that this action will help me look good naked, keeps me disciplined. If you love lifting heavy, lift heavy. Do you love yoga? I sure don’t. It would be hard for me to stay disciplined doing yoga every day, but hey, do what you love!